Phild Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 I for one don't like people who I don't know coming up and chatting to me. I'm quite happy sat by myself at an event where I don't know many people.
Steve S 60 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I'd be more uncomfortable with nosey parkers asking who we were / where we were from, are we "soulies"? etc.... Just as well I didn't come and bother you then.
Steve G Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Just as well I didn't come and bother you then. Always up for a chat but you are a bit difficult to identify by your avatar
Steve S 60 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Always up for a chat but you are a bit difficult to identify by your avatar I was wearing my Avatars on Saturday night!
Reg Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 These days i like to sit on my own and absore the music without some middle age woman verbaling and telling me her life history lol lol Have we met?
Steve G Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I was wearing my Avatars on Saturday night! we were down the far end - furthest from the door - the noisy bunch on the end table
Steve S 60 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 we were down the far end - furthest from the door - the noisy bunch on the end table Nice one Steve. I was on the first row of tables when I wasn't attempting to dance. Always get a friendly welcome in Barrow, but with Cumbria being sparsely populated, we're all related, we all tend to know each other on the soul scene up here.
Steve G Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Nice one Steve. I was on the first row of tables when I wasn't attempting to dance. Always get a friendly welcome in Barrow, but with Cumbria being sparsely populated, we're all related, we all tend to know each other on the soul scene up here. Cheers. It was funny cos someone came up to one of Lorraine's older brothers (a Sparky) and said "Do you remember me? I used to work with you". I think not being on the scene he was quite surprised by that....
Len Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 (edited) I know Brian and the lovely Angie get out and about as much as I do, Bri does Soul nights and I do Nighters, no high or low ground claimed or implied Bro X, I do know what you mean and if I and my travelling compadres are treated with indifference we don't return, simples and it is their loss. There are some Allnighters that I just will not do as I feel they are cliquey and I always feel like a gate crasher, one of the big ones has a regular invite back to their house for the chosen few which is ace but when that becomes a kind of selling point for their Nighter you can't hep but feel excluded, maybe our group hasn't got the right kind of social skills? The front of shop is vital, massive own goals can be scored by not greeting someone who has just spent two hours driving to a venue, it is both ignorant and quite short sighted. Once in the venue, I care little for socialising, I am there to dance like the devil him self but I do kinda want to feel comfortable and not feel dread, the only time I have ever felt dread was at the Coalville Allnighter when I honestly thought it was going to go pear shaped with the locals! For years I suffered from 'Imposter Syndrome', but as you get older you come to realise that some people are simply not friendly (their loss) Social skills are over rated mate All the best, Len Edited October 14, 2013 by LEN
Len Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 These days i like to sit on my own and absore the music without some middle age woman verbaling and telling me her life history lol lol Yes, we call that 'House wives on spe*d' - Don't get trapped All the best, Len
Len Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 You'd have a barrel of laughs with me mate, get to venue, get in the record bar, get on dance floor, see the missus 8 hours later, I sh*t you not....occasionally eyes meet across the dance floor but that's about it, got better things to do....always funny too when blocked n some nutters tryin to do ya head in or your tryin to do their head in....its all part of the fun innit !!! lol Apres Soul conversations n adventures.... Dave A n his gerbils Steve C n course fishing at 6am Captain Detroit !!! Offering a lift to some strangers after a Nighter, starting a conversation in Yarmouth & it finished when I pulled up outside their house on Portsmouth - they hadn't said a word all journey - they left the vehicle like a bullet out of a gun lol Taking nearly 2 days to get home - stopping at every services n café on the way back Losing Randy at the services n him trying to hunt us down as he thought we had abandoned him The fun & friendliness is endless...... Best Russ Great stuff - Me and Nina always had our own 'adventure', then we'd talk b*llox about each of our adventures for hours when we got home. Many times we've given some 'strange soul' (that we had only just met) a lift home from f*ckin miles away - One stayed at a mates for the next three days - THIS IS NOT NORMAL! - But we loved it! Len
Len Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Conversations are always cut off by me,or by my friends.When a record comes on you've got about 2.30 secs to get to it,you can always carry the conversation on later...but that moment on the floor may not come around for a while....its one place that sort of etiquette should be understood...... Yep often been in a 'heart to heart' convo and had to 'suddenly' stop it. Once, some one was 'really deep', telling me about a time they were going to kill themselves, etc - A record came on, I said ..."Back in a sec".....and as I was dancing, I thought, oops, that was bad timing......I got back - No problem, and carried on chatting - He was 'one of us'; you see Whereas on the other hand, I've had people that have been offended (and said so) just because I've 'been in the zone' and 'ignored them' - That really irritates me. Len
Len Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Len i couldn't get a word in or run off I know - Been there mate!........So frustrating having your night 'stolen'......so I do it to others for revenge! Len
Reg Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Only kidding, I'm usually hiding in the corner from the rabbits :-)
Steve G Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 The "badge of honour" has to be turning up at a venue and being told you won't like it, because it's a "soul do". I know that has happened to someone on here.....
Sooty Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 (edited) "Do You Like To Feel Welcome" A smile when money is taken at the door is suffice Barney...however I must say that wherever i've been Nationally...be it a Soul Night or Nighter...i've always been met with a warm welcome of some kind!x So...no complaints here!x LUV SOOTY X "Once, some one was 'really deep', telling me about a time they were going to kill themselves, etc - A record came on, I said ..."Back in a sec".....and as I was dancing, I thought, oops, that was bad timing....." ....and i'm still standing on that chair with noose waiting for u to stop dancing Lenny...15 years....me knees are sore.....wot u like....I have problems......u listening???.......I faawt u luv'd me too......i;m stepping forward...I am...I really really am.......hello????..... @@ ~ ...you see...there's this DJ that plays mid tempo in the middle of me STOOOORMING all-nighter and has all the guuuuurls swaying like good uns.........how can I do that?? I';m finished.......ended............... Edited October 14, 2013 by SOOTY
Shinehead Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Its nice for people to maybe nod at you maybe and a smile on entry or in bogs or outside smoking , but once you are around the dancefloor or dancing who gives a fook about anybody else and as for trying to hold a conversation if that's what you have gone for maybe you should go looking for another pastime .
Soulfinger Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I go out to dance. I like the music to be loud enough that I can't hear what anybody says. I mostly go to nights round the North West where people shake hands and say Hiya. That's plenty for me. Every so often I'll see someone for the first time in years and we'll say more than hello but apart from the music we usually have nowt in common. The Mrs, on the other hand, loves a natter with all and sundry...especially the kids who she has taught over the years about half of whom seem to have turned into soulies.
Len Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 (edited) "Do You Like To Feel Welcome" A smile when money is taken at the door is suffice Barney...however I must say that wherever i've been Nationally...be it a Soul Night or Nighter...i've always been met with a warm welcome of some kind!x So...no complaints here!x LUV SOOTY X "Once, some one was 'really deep', telling me about a time they were going to kill themselves, etc - A record came on, I said ..."Back in a sec".....and as I was dancing, I thought, oops, that was bad timing....." ....and i'm still standing on that chair with noose waiting for u to stop dancing Lenny...15 years....me knees are sore.....wot u like....I have problems......u listening???.......I faawt u luv'd me too......i;m stepping forward...I am...I really really am.......hello????..... @@ ~ ...you see...there's this DJ that plays mid tempo in the middle of me STOOOORMING all-nighter and has all the guuuuurls swaying like good uns.........how can I do that?? I';m finished.......ended............... I can only apologise , it was 'Moses Smith - The Girl Across The Street'......What's a soulie supposed to do?........'hang' in there Buddy All the best, Len Edited October 14, 2013 by LEN
Geeselad Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 The "badge of honour" has to be turning up at a venue and being told you won't like it, because it's a "soul do". I know that has happened to someone on here..... inverted facism that, I'd be pretty proud right now of not looking like a soulie!
Northernjordan Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 "Hi, you alright mate? Cheers for coming, that will be X amount..." is enough for me....
TOAD Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 If you really need a good welcome put your keys on the table and joi
TOAD Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 If you really need a good welcome put your keys on the table and join a swingers club lol lol
Guest MrC Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 The "badge of honour" has to be turning up at a venue and being told you won't like it, because it's a "soul do". I know that has happened to someone on here..... I was told that at Kings Hall once.....
Pete S Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 (edited) No I like to feel unwelcome Edited October 15, 2013 by Pete S
Len Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 "Hi, you alright mate? Cheers for coming, that will be X amount..." is enough for me.... ......and all that is needed - It's the 'vibe' people get I suppose. All the best, Len
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